Dating is about the Gospel. Dating and marriage image the greatest relationship mankind has ever experienced. Your dating experience should simply be footnotes to the Gospel. When people look at you, they should not only see a couple filled with hopes and dreams, but they should actually see God! All throughout scripture God used pictures to illustrate spiritual truths. The sacrificial system was a picture of Christ, the Passover was a picture of Christ, and your dating/marriage relationship should also be all about Christ and the Gospel. So what does a Gospel centered dating relationship look like?
A Gospel centered relationship is about imaging God. This imaging starts first by imitation, and then all those around will be able to see the image of God. Does your dating cause people to see a better picture of Christ? Do you model Christ to your GF or BF? When they are around you do you cause them to think more of their Savior? I cannot truly image God unless I know Him. Before I can expect a God-honoring and fulfilling dating relationship, I have to be pursuing my first heavenly Love (Rev 2:4).
Your dating relationship is a microcosm of your relationship with your Heavenly spouse. You will never be closer to your date, than you are to your God. You can pretend to love, and even feel like you love the other person, but if you are not honoring your first commitment to Christ, you cannot honor your God or truly love your date.
A Gospel centered relationship is about a choice to love. Falling in love and love’s first kiss work well in Disney movies, but God has given us the perfect example of dating in the Scriptures. In fact God is the one pursing His date. In dating I get to imitate God. Did you know God dated? He zeroed in on one nation and then choose to love it. “The LORD did not set his love upon you, nor choose you, because ye were more in number than any people; for ye were the fewest of all people: 8 But because the LORD loved you….” (Deuteronomy 7:7-8)
In dating, a couple gets to walk in God’s footsteps by choosing/setting their love on someone else. “While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” A cursory look at Scripture shows that God’s love was not feeling based, but a choice God made. Love is a choice, and in dating/marriage I get to show God to my date or spouse (I John 4:8). Every decision in dating from choosing to maintain purity to sharing your last French fry is a chance to model God type love.
How have you been shown this God-love in your relationship?